Appreciate What You Have
Sometimes don’t you find that you get so caught up in your immediate concerns that you forget to value what you’ve already accomplished? This is a common theme that is often heard in the rooms of recovery. The early stages of recovery are so chock full of new things to do, activities that you may never have been involved in before – such as participation in 12-step meetings – and daily to-do lists that may seem like they’re never-ending, that you feel you don’t have time to do much of any sort of reflecting.
Here’s a way that you can help build your successful sobriety foundation. Take the time to appreciate what you have – and you already have a great deal, if you stop to think about it. You have your sobriety. You have embarked upon the recovery journey, a new life that you have freely chosen. You are no longer clinging to the outer edges of your addiction. You have learned how to overcome addiction and are willing to do whatever it takes to maintain your sobriety.
You are also less likely to become envious of others or disappointed in not having gotten further when you follow or adopt this strategy.
What does the long view mean? Quite simply, it means that you give yourself as long as it takes to master a certain skill, to feel comfortable being able to cope with cravings and urges, to learn how to better communicate with others, to begin the process of mending damaged or fractured relationships, to make amends for the wrongs that you have done that have brought pain to others as a result of your addiction.
Sure, the list of what you feel you need to do, as well as what you think right now that you want to do is probably quite long. For some, however, the list is incredibly short: stay sober and don’t slip. By keeping the long view of recovery, you know that you have time to make steady and measured progress toward goals that are reasonable and realistic for you to attempt. As you gain strength in recovery, you’ll be adding to your goals and your horizons will broaden.
But for now, just remind yourself that you will recover day by day, by living day by day, in the present, and fully committed to sobriety.